Comments on BOSSY BETTY: Party of Two

Incredibly well written. Welcome back.

2012-01-21T07:10:00.333-08:00

Incredibly well written. Welcome back.

I think the road is not always straight ahead, but...

2012-01-19T19:12:22.482-08:00

I think the road is not always straight ahead, but that little trip to the side doesn't mean you haven't also made progress.

Hugs.

where in california are you? i could always go fo...

2012-01-19T15:49:28.201-08:00

where in california are you? i could always go for a party of two!!!

I'm sorry you were hurting but yes, a good tea...

2012-01-19T09:50:57.668-08:00

I'm sorry you were hurting but yes, a good tear-ridden meltdown can be very cleansing. You are stronger than you think. Belated Birthday hugs to you.

What a great post. All of us who have lived and lo...

2012-01-19T03:42:33.131-08:00

What a great post. All of us who have lived and loved and who have been hurt will relate volumes to your words. I know I do.
I know the first part of a healing process is to acknowledge the hurt and feel it and let it infuse you. Slowly, it will feel as ocean waves sweeping over you - during the storm they are drowning you, but as the sea calms down, they will became pleasant and purifying.;)
As for you friend/colleague and the retirement party - remember nothing is perfect. When it appears the most perfect, that is when it is the most defect. And life moves always alternately over valleys of pain and pinnacles of happiness -I assure you you are on your way up again.;)
Glad you enjoyed your birthday party - for two.;)
xoxo

The crying is good even though it hurt like hell. ...

2012-01-19T01:55:17.465-08:00

The crying is good even though it hurt like hell. And I am glad that you had a wonderful celebration with your friend.
Hugging you
SueAnn

At some point we all have to cry ... you can't...

2012-01-18T21:40:07.854-08:00

At some point we all have to cry ... you can't keep that in and let it build up...

Glad your birthday was a chance for you to unwind and be how you need to
at this stage.

One day at a time... one little step forward..

The breakdown wasn't a set back. You have to p...

2012-01-18T18:57:15.427-08:00

The breakdown wasn't a set back. You have to process things as they come and they don't always package themselves into convenient times.

I'm glad you have good (nonvirtual)friends who are there for you.

Ah, Betty. You needed those tears and you needed ...

2012-01-18T17:32:03.857-08:00

Ah, Betty. You needed those tears and you needed that big cry. It was the release you needed. You had been holding it in too long. Those tears were part of your progress even though they didn't feel like it at the time. You needed to cry those tears so you could put more of that pain behind you. I'm so glad you had the time to visit one on one with a friend. That sounds like it was just what you were needing. Hugs to you.

Oh sweetie...I know the pain is still fresh at tim...

2012-01-18T16:24:56.541-08:00

Oh sweetie...I know the pain is still fresh at times, despite how much progress you've made. And you are so wise to realize that sometimes a crowd isn't what you need - it is that one on one contact with someone who "gets" you.

Lots and lots of hugs. It WILL be completely and totally okay eventually.

Just because there were some tears does not mean t...

2012-01-18T15:36:43.511-08:00

Just because there were some tears does not mean that you haven't made excellent progress in your adjustment to the changes in your life. You've come a long way Betty and you are going strong :)
Glad you had a good birthday

I have to admit, Betty, that I haven't been ov...

2012-01-18T15:01:00.472-08:00

I have to admit, Betty, that I haven't been over here in some time, and didn't know your husband left. I am SO sorry. I know how it feels, having been there myself. It is very difficult especially the first two years. I thought I was doing great, but I really wasn't. And that first holiday was dreadful. It just takes time to work through it. To create new memories. It was so difficult for me to let go of the past. And then there are the children...not easy. My heart goes out to you!! One foot in front of the other. Take care of yourself in every possible way. Take care of your children.
Ann Best, Author of In the Mirror & Other Memoirs

I have been thinking about you, Betty. I can't...

2012-01-18T12:48:02.628-08:00

I have been thinking about you, Betty. I can't imagine how hard the holidays were...I seriously thought about you and worried!!!

I need to catch up on your posts and see what's going on.

My heart goes out to you.

Much Love,
Leslie

Glad to hear it. We all just need permission to fe...

2012-01-18T12:44:57.490-08:00

Glad to hear it. We all just need permission to feel how we feel, and know that we'll be loved and supported, don't we?

Glad it turned out how YOU wanted and needed. I r...

2012-01-18T12:40:34.492-08:00

Glad it turned out how YOU wanted and needed. I raise my glass to you, dear Betty!

Sometimes one good friend is all you really need. ...

2012-01-18T12:36:03.550-08:00

Sometimes one good friend is all you really need. It sounds like this was the perfect way to spend your birthday. I don't like crowds when it's my birthday. More cake for me. :)

Big hugs Betty!
xo Catherine

Yes, a gift to everyone because you're sharing...

2012-01-18T12:32:06.615-08:00

Yes, a gift to everyone because you're sharing your journey. You are amazing.

And grief IS a process, I know you know that, and however you get through it, whatever you need to do, no matter how long it takes... it's personal. No one has YOUR pain and no one can tell you how best to manage it.

When I can walk again for more than 20 feet or so, I'd love to drive down there and take a walk with you. :)

Bless your heart. I really do understand what you...

2012-01-18T11:07:45.452-08:00

Bless your heart. I really do understand what you are going through. Having the rug pulled out from under you, isn't pleasant and you just can't prepare yourself for it, you can only try to recover from it. You WILL get stronger as time goes on, because you ARE a strong woman, even if you have to keep reminding yourself.

Ya did good. And, as ever, gleaned an insight that...

2012-01-18T10:38:35.817-08:00

Ya did good. And, as ever, gleaned an insight that not only helped you but will help others as well. Do you realize what a gift you are giving others by sharing your journey?

Wishing you fewer of the desperate days and more and more of the quietly happy ones.

I'm a firm believer that the occasional meltdo...

2012-01-18T10:33:40.124-08:00

I'm a firm believer that the occasional meltdown is a good thing and necessary to wash away sadness and stress. I'm so sorry you were sad-- the holidays seem to magnify things, but I'm glad you ended with a happy walk down Candy Cane Lane and a joyful birthday!

May the coming year be one filled with many, many happy times and only a few well-deserved meltdown.

xoxoxo jj

I'm glad you had a good birthday, Betty. I agr...

2012-01-18T09:07:04.729-08:00

I'm glad you had a good birthday, Betty. I agree with everyone else, just because you cry doesn't mean you're not progressing. You are!! Crying can be healthy and rejuvenating!! I can only imagine how difficult it is to recover from that.

It's not the crowd - sometimes we just need on...

2012-01-18T08:40:08.910-08:00

It's not the crowd - sometimes we just need one friend to listen.

Big hugs to you for sure. We just agree with what ...

2012-01-18T08:27:20.915-08:00

Big hugs to you for sure. We just agree with what everyone said. Bloggers are just so wonderful Hang in there girl. Things will get better. Take care.

I enjoyed other peoples decorations this year and ...

2012-01-18T08:26:01.725-08:00

I enjoyed other peoples decorations this year and only helped others decorate . It is easier for the cleanup.It is like Monopoly, after you pass Go your life starts all over again.

Wow...you just keep going forward and getting thro...

2012-01-18T08:13:14.456-08:00

Wow...you just keep going forward and getting through. What a roll model for us all. It's not the challenges in our lives that matter...it's how we handle them. You are doing fine.
Hugs~