Wednesday, November 7, 2012

WACI





Both of my sons are living away from home now, building their own lives in a way that would make any mama proud. 

As hard as it is for a naturally gregarious, sweet, incredibly cool, ultra-active mother such as myself, I try my best not to hover, and to give them the space they need at this point in their lives.  Neither of them is particularly chatty (those of you with young teenage/early 20’s sons understand this) but every so often we have long chats on the weekend.  They are always generous with IT advice when I need it, and there are a few random texts during the week (mostly generated by dear old Mom).

However, every Wednesday afternoon I send them (and Sonny Boy’s girlfriend, because I am crazy about that girl) a text that simply says WACI.   I started doing this six years ago when Sonny Boy started college.  Those letters stand for Wednesday Afternoon Check-In.  They send back simple messages like “Check!” and “WACI to you!” and that’s all it takes to make me smile at my phone like a happy lunatic.

You see, with those WACI’s, I am not suspiciously checking up on them, nor is there is an expectation of a long, involved discussion.  No, I am simply giving them a small tap on the shoulder, letting them know that in the middle of the week, in the middle of the day, wherever she is, their mom is thinking of them, sending them love, and wishing them the best. 

Of course, they know my love for them is constant, but I see them so rarely these days.  I think we all need to be reminded from time to time that the stars we rely upon to twinkle in the nighttime sky are also there in the daytime, fixed and dependable, and shining just as brightly even though we can’t see them.

Happy Wednesday, everyone.  



28 comments:

Madi and Mom said...

BB
Your Monday morning Flowers are my WACI!! I do so enjoy them and they do indeed make me smile. Your sons are extremely fortunate to have you for a Mom!!
Hugs Madi and Mom

Kerri said...

What an Absolutely wonderful idea!!! LOVE it!

and love your clouds!

Leah J. Utas said...

What a cool--a loving--thing to do.

Old Kitty said...

My sister and her sons have the same sort of scheme. The boys are in their mid 20's and live away from her but text her one secret word every day and she replies in kind and that's enough! Awwww! I really like that!

Take care
x

Shelly said...

WACI to you!

Deanna said...

What a lovely idea! Both of my adult children are quite active on Facebook so we are nearly always in contact there but I really like your idea and may modify it to fit our situation. Thanks for sharing.

Susan Gourley/Kelley said...

My children are pretty good at checking in. My one son started calling Thursday nights when he was in college to fill us in on his upcoming football game. This continued all through college and now he's coaching high school football and does the same thing.

Ella said...

I love this, sweet n' endearing!
:D
I do think it is a great idea~
Mom is just checking in!

Out on the prairie said...

What a great idea, fun to encourage communication

Hilary said...

I love this.. and might have to steal it. Would that be a tacky thing to do? Yes.. TACI.. for Tuesdays or Thursdays. ;)

Mamma has spoken said...

I did the same thing too when my sons were away except it was a random text of 'I Love You' Many times it elicited a phone call from one of them. Once, one had to explain to a girl they were dating that I was their mom ;o)
Now they are all back home and I tell them in person. Just in case they forgot ;o)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

You're just letting them know you're thinking about them!

Empty Nester said...

That is so sweet! I would try something like that but all four of my girls are so attached that I get a gazillion texts from them every day and two of them have to call every day. I think that may be the difference between sons and daughters? I'm not complaining, mind you. I feel blessed that they still want to keep in touch with me even though they are 27, 25, 24, and 21. The day it stops is the day I hope I remember WACI!

Brian Miller said...

that is pretty cool...and you know if you ever forgot to do it i bet they would know you had missed it...and it i imagine reminds them you care....very cool.

Gigi said...

I may have to steal that! It's rare for mine to have the presence of mind to think "Oh, I haven't called/texted Mom in a few days; I should probably let her know I'm alive."

Ann said...

I like this idea. I may even have to steal it and do it myself.

Leanne said...

Oh, Betty . . . I think WACI is awesome. Mind if I borrow it when my girlies are older? The whole idea of it just makes me happy. Happy Wednesday to you, dear BB.

Daisy said...

Aw, this is great! I text my boys just to say hello sometimes too, but not on a certain day. I love this.

jenny_o said...

What a good idea, Betty - may I borrow a cup of WACI from you to make a connection with my kids? :)

Domestic Bella said...

Such a great idea!

Retired English Teacher said...

I love this! I think I will steal this idea from you. I find it is especially hard for boys to check in with dear old mom. My daughters are much better at it. In fact, at times they just call to say they are checking in. I am grateful for that.

faye said...

a great idea ..

Hope your Wednesday was great..
even better today !!

Peggy K said...

How is it you can bring a tear to my eye with a post like this? My kids are in their 30s and just like most who have kids that age, I often go all week without hearing from them, yet wondering how their week is going. I wish I had started this when they were younger. If I did it now, they'd think I was losing it. But I LOVE this idea and WILL use it when my grandkids get older. Thanks, BB!!

SueAnn Lommler said...

My mid week text consists of a "Hey" and I hear from my son. Always makes me smile too
Be well
Hugs
SueAnn

Pat said...

I love this idea. So sweet.

Baby Sister said...

That is such a cute idea!! You're such a good mom. :)

TexWisGirl said...

this was so sweet. congrats on your POTW!

Laura said...

what a great idea!!! my eldest started college this fall and I tend to wait for her to text or call me... but every once in a while if something important comes up I will send her a text and say "call me"... but I love WACI as a simple way to stay connected... let them know YOU (or I) am alive and thinking of them... and an easy way for them to say "me too" without actually saying "me too."

congrats on POTW!