Wednesday, December 21, 2011

This Scattered Life


My Blogging Buddies,

When I started this blog three years ago I came up with the moniker of Bossy Betty thinking I could use some snappy persona and write from that perspective, hiding behind a mask of irreverence. The irony is that through blogging and the connections I made with my readers, I found that I couldn't be anything by authentic in my writing.

Maybe that is a strength; maybe it is a weakness.

Recent events in my life have pretty much stripped all remaining pretenses from my life. I find that I have no choice but to be authentic. I have no energy for anything but authenticity.

Unfortunately, that honesty comes with an emotional price. At this point in my life I am trying to deal with research papers, wrapping paper, and divorce papers. I am trying to keep my head above water. Just when I think I have a handle on this whole divorce thing, new revelations come to the surface and threaten to drown me. Just when I think I can't be hurt in any new ways, I find out differently.

So, I am taking a blogging break. I need some time to gather myself, to make sure my sons have some much-needed emotional stability, and to just try and make it through the holidays.

I'll be back, my pretties.

I love you too much to not haunt you with my every observation.

Have a wonderful holiday season and I'll see you soon.

--BB

83 comments:

Joyful said...

Bossy Betty, I think your readers will totally understand why you need a break, esp. at this time of year. I hope that you will rest and rejuvenate and have a time of refreshing. See you when you get back. Peace <3

Shan said...

And we'll be here, sending you love.

Ms. A said...

We'll be here when you feel like you have your Bossy back. Have a Merry Christmas and if you aren't feeling the Merry, just have a Betty Christmas! Hugs!

rainbow said...

Just keep in mind we are here for you when you are ready to come back to us and you will always be in our thoughts and prayers. We LOVE YOU and know you and your boys need some time to adjust. Speaking from the point of being there, my boys were 9 and 11 the Christmas their Dad wanted his Sex-ra-tery more then me and the boys. It is a hard adjustment but we all survived. He realized how much the guys really ment to him and turned into Mr. Fantastic Dad (and still is today, the guys are now 38 and 41). HOPE ALL GOES AS WELL FOR YOU and I promise this will be the hardest Christmas to get through. Just always keep in mind how many many many people, friends and family members LOVE YOU AND WISH YOU WELL.

rainbow (Momma Lyn) sorry this got so long but I wanted you to know YOU ARE LOVED A LOT BY MANY OF US!!!

Ruby said...

We will be waiting for you to bounce back and share with us your lovely Monday flowers and inspirational and powerful writing. Have a Merry Christmas Betty! xoxoxo Ruby

Noelle said...

Sending lots of love your way. And an added hug from my little Elimy.

ThreeOldKeys said...

BB - take care of YOU ...

all the best from your fans & friends ....

threeoldkeys

Susan in the Boonies said...

I'm sorry that more stuff has surfaced, and, frankly, that stinks. I'm so very sorry. Please know that I value you, and the authentic place from which you speak, more than I can say. Take all the time you need, but DO come back. We'll be here, saying, "More Betty, please".

Love you, hon!

Hilary said...

Beautiful Betty, take all the time you need to cope with life's challenges. We understand how difficult this season is for you and your boys. I'm sorry you've encountered more difficulties but these too shall pass. Big Christmas hugs to you.

Larri @ Seams Inspired said...

Break away, Betty! We'll patiently (truly anxiously) await your return. ☺ (((HUGS))) and Happy Thursday!

Psalm 37:1-7

Old Kitty said...

BB you adorable wonderful fierce funny and just all round lovely woman!!! You take all the bloggy break you need and want. You take each day at a time and each paper too! I'm so sorry you are going through such trauma. But hang on in there BB! You are a survivor!! We all love you!! Take care
x

Leah J. Utas said...

Take your time, Betty. We'll be here.
Authentic is good. Even when it hurts.

Merry Christmas.

Laura said...

Betty, it's totally understandable. Do what you can, when you can. The urge to blog will be there when you're ready. And we'll be more than ready for you to come back. Take care of YOU though!

Elizabeth Grimes said...

This must be a difficult time. Everyone needs a break sometimes! Take care and come back when you're ready!

Flartus said...

Oh, and how you'll be missed! I'm sorry you're hurting in new and unexpected ways. I hope you make it through the holidays ok, and please remember that I WILL be thinking about you.

But here's a thought of hope: we have passed the solstice. Nights will be shorter, little by little. More light is creeping ever so slowly into your life.

Enjoy your boys, Miss Betty. See you next year.

Anne Gallagher said...

Betty, even if you don't fully realize it yet, you are getting stronger and stronger every single day. The upheaval you've been going through will one day come to an end and you will be a bright and shiny new person. Bossy you were and bossy you will always be.
That's why we love you so much.

May you find much comfort and joy during this holiday season. I know I'll be thinking of you and the boys over the holidays.
Love,
Anne

Lin said...

Take the time, my friend. And go live your life, re-group, and find strength in the smallest of miracles on this good green Earth. I pray that you get through this very difficult first Christmas and know that we are all here, cheering you on, encouraging you to charge (creep?)forward and persevere.

We love you, Betty. Please, please, PLEASE email me if you need ANYTHING. (farkel4@yahoo.com) Please check in once or twice so we know you are okay. Because I know that you will be....you are BETTY! :)

Hugs and love. LOTS and LOTS of love, pally.

Survive Christmas and you can do ANYTHING!

Mamma has spoken said...

I'll be thinking and praying for you Betty. And I'll be hoping that when this is all through, it will make you stronger.
I'll be waiting for your return.

Teresa Evangeline said...

It is essential to be authentic, especially when life is painful. I hope you and your sons have a memorable Christmas in that you are reminded of all the Love in the world.

Best thoughts and prayers.

Laura Eno said...

Healing is a step forward/step backward process. We'll still be here when you get back. *hugs*

Gigi said...

Sending you lots of love and hugs. I'll be thinking of you.

Daisy said...

Enjoy the time with your sons, Betty. Big hugs to you. Saying a prayer for you today. Wishing for you all good things.

Out on the prairie said...

It has been your wit and wisdom with that touch of class I always have enjoyed. Happy holidays!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Betty you are in my prayers.

LittleSilkDress said...

Do what you need to do, BB. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. See you when you get back!

Stephanie V said...

The papers are the worst! Take care of yourself and those you love. They will take care of you.
Have a peaceful Christmas!

Mandy_Fish said...

Take care of you.

vfh159 said...

I will miss you.

Brian said...

A break is very wise, enjoy, but get back here soon!

Madi and Mom said...

BB take care of yourself and you handsome boys...we'll always have you in our thoughts and prayers. We'll be here with open arms when you feel like returning.
Hugs to you, the Mable and Zelda,
Madi and Mom

baygirl32 said...

Enjoy your break Betty, I hope it will be a short one.

HUGS

Nat said...

Take care Betty.... will keep you in my thoughts.

Baby Sister said...

Take care Betty. I hope you can find peace during this difficult time you're going through. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs*

Sush said...

...To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven


Take your time...we will be waiting and keeping your spirit warm in our hearts.
Much love and blessings and wishes for comfort and joy for you and yours for the holidays...and all the days ahead~

Pat Tillett said...

Take care of yourself my friend.

SanDandy said...

I visit your blog most everyday but seldom leave a comment. I felt I needed to today. I so understand. Hugs.
SanDandy

Leanne said...

I Love you, Betty. Really. Take care of yourself. I'll be thinking of you.

jenny_o said...

Give yourself and your boys lots of TLC, and see you when you're ready.

Ami said...

Every morning I send out positive thoughts, thinking of specific people, sometimes no one specific.

But you're always on the specific list.

annie said...

We'll be here waiting Betty. Take your time and God bless.

Pearl said...

Do come back, Betty. The authentic voice was not lost on us, and you are loved by many people you will never meet...

Pearl

Ann said...

Totally understandable Betty and without a doubt when you are ready to return I will be here to read.
I wish you a joyful Christmas and better days ahead in the coming new year.

Linda said...

It's a wise woman who knows when to take a break, Betty. I hope you're able to return refreshed and further along the healing road. Merry Christmas to you and your boys.

Tracy said...

Betty, Good for you...take good care ans when you are ready, you will return!

Kristina Streeter said...

I'm glad to see that you are taking some time for you, and stepping away for a while - although I will miss you! I hope you have a Merry Christmas! Will be thinking of you! Looking forward to your return!

Caro said...

Take care of yourself and your boys.

Brian (not the cat) said...

The readers have spoken: we love you and will miss our daily dose of Betty. This is the time to gather stones together.

Retired English Teacher said...

Take care of yourself. I will miss you. God bless you during this time. I know how hard it can be. We are standing with you. We care you are being hugged and held by many.

Peggy K said...

What a great gift you are giving yourself!! So glad that you recognize that you need the break. You will be missed, but you will be in our thoughts and prayers. And you will come back stronger, filled with stories to share, and filled with an even greater sense of resolve that you really can do anything.
Love ya to pieces, BB. (Okay everyone....(((((group hug))))).
Merry Christmas, Betty.

Green Monkey said...

I understand, it makes sense to me! enjoy what you have. i would give anything to spend time with my son.

KleinsteMotte said...

You are totally right about what you need to do! This ix the time for getting things back to some sense of peace and hope. And hopefully you will get that. Stress can be so tough.
May you have some happy moments with your boys.
Merry Christmas.

Jennifer Shirk said...

Hey, wanted to say Merry Christmas. Some time off is good but will miss you. :)

H A R R Y G O A Z said...

Have a Wonderful Holiday Season, Betty !

A joyous RENEWAL to you in the New Year*

Harry

Zuzana said...

Dear Betty, I recognize this. If we are candid in our writing, at times we need to retreat as not all can be revealed - I had to this earlier in the year too.
Wishing you and yours a wonderful Christmas and all the best in the New Year - thank you so much for your kind visits and friendship in the past year,
xoxo

faye said...

There comes a time we all need to break.. so try to enjoy your time away..but know that you will be missed..
and your loyal followers will be here
and waiting..

hugs
faye

CiCi said...

I understand you every word. Sounds like your divorce is further along than mine is, but the hurt is real and the disappointment is something we both must deal with. I am so sorry you are learning things you did not know before and that you are still being hurt. My wish for you is that you continue to adjust and work toward being a healthy beautiful woman that you truly are. Take care of yourself.

scrapwordsmom said...

Bless you!! You are an amazing writer. Take all the time you need. We understand.

Love,
Leslie

EmptyNester said...

I hope you are able to find some time the results in some deep healing for you my friend. Not a single day goes by empty of thoughts of you and how you are getting along. Everything about you is completely amazing! No worries about taking a break- we shall be right here waiting your return and, meanwhile, continue to send you positive thoughts and virtual hugs. We are with you even if it is only in spirit!

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Betty .. hope you're having some giggles and crabby laughter during this seasonal time and enjoy having your sons back with you ..

All the very best for 2012 .. and thinking of you .. cheers Hilary

Jules said...

Oh please DO haunt me, just what I need another ghost. :) I sincerely hope you are finding that happy face of yours and real is always best. Who wants a fake Betty? :)
Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

Tabor said...

May your rest, rejuvenate and return with more irreverence. I found that when I wrote with a certain style I received few comments, but when I wrote from the heart, my reader could tell. We will miss you but we are patient!

Siv Maria said...

Good luck Betty. I hope the New year is a better one for you. I will risk saying Happy New Year to you even though I can only guess you think it is too dark for happiness, believe me, you will find it again.

Lazarus said...

Bossy, hang in there, you have a LOT of people supporting you and rooting for you. One of my favorite Japanese proverbs (well, OK, the only Japanese proverb I know) advises: "Get knocked down seven times, get up eight." I know you'll get up stronger than ever. Best wishes for a truly magnificent 2012. When one door closes, another opens!

Leanne said...

Happy New Year, Betty. Love.

Rawknrobyn.blogspot.com said...

Thinking of you.
Much love,
xoRobyn

Pat Tillett said...

I hope the new year brings you healing and happiness Betty...

Madi and Mom said...

Hi BB,
Madi and I wanted to say hi and that we are thinking of you and MOST OF ALL to wish you a happier 2012...and may each day be filled with new and fun adventures and new possibilities.
Hugs M&M

Catherine said...

I wish for you Peace Health and Happiness for 2012 Betty! Keep strong friend!
xo Catherine

CherylK said...

I do wish you all the best, Betty. Just do what you've got to do...I'm certain that you'll pull out of this and be stronger for it but it may take a long time. That's okay. xxoo

Joanna Jenkins said...

Hi Betty,

I've been thinking about you and hoping you and your family are doing okay this holiday. I know things are very different for you and I hope you know I'm cheering you on. Talk all the time you need for a break. We'll be here when you get back.

xo jj

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Unknown Mami said...

I just wanted to wish you a Happy New Year! May the year be full of growth and wonderful transformation for you.

Slamdunk said...

Sorry I am late with this but take your time Betty. My prayers are with you.

Margo Kelly said...

Sending positive thoughts your way!!! Hang in there. :)

BECKY said...

Thinking of you and missing you, Betty.

Nowhere Man said...

Always be true to yourself. No matter what.

Cool Gal said...

Take all the time you need, Betty. We'll all be here when you get back.

Hope you had a nice holiday season.

Noelle said...

You've been on my mind and I hope that things are starting to seem brighter! Sending lots of love!

Mrs.C said...

Just came over to check on you, and see if you're back yet. Praying for you! You are missed, I love your writing style, but completely understand the need to take a break from blogging. Hugs to you!

rainbow said...

Just know we are here for you when you are ready to come back. Love to you and your loved ones. HOPE 2012 WILL BE AS GOOD FOR YOU AS 1982 WAS FOR ME. God is not through with us yet!! I know He is still working on me.

rainbow (Momma Lyn)

Green Monkey said...

Hey Betty, if you get this comment can you please send me an email. Thanks! xoMonkeyME

Donna B. said...

Oh Betty...I have been away...and am so sorry to hear of your recent challenges...I believe in you girl! Do what you gotta do and we will be here with open arms and remember, I have big ears... ((((((hugs)))))

Flartus said...

Woke up this morning, thinking of you...I think I have subconsciously been missing your Monday morning flowers. Anyway, just dropping a note to say "hi" and hope you're doing well.