Wednesday, September 14, 2011

And Now a Word From SOB: (Not that one) Sister of Betty!

See that protective arm around me?
I've felt it my whole life and feel it especially now.

My four older sisters are my champions. When I started my long process of recovery after HOB left, my sister Kathleen wrote this to all my blogger buddies. She told me I didn't need to post it, but I wanted to, to let you know how much you are all appreciated.



Yes, Betty is going through a hard and confusing time.

As she was trying hard to deal with it all, she felt the foundation under her feet give-literally. A pipe, in the house which had only hours before become her responsibility, had broken. She called friends who came and helped her move heavy furniture. The next day a friend came back to help rip up the soggy ruined carpet.

As they ripped, more damage was exposed. The water was still flowing. They turned off the water and consulted another friend who advised a professional be called.

The plumber stopped the flow, but much remains uncertain. So much damage, water doesn't flow through electrical outlets, ceilings and floors without leaving them weak and vulnerable.

Stability once taken for granted is threatened, just as in Betty's life.

What is not threatened and never questioned in Betty's life is the support of her friends and family.

Her family is scattered in various states far away; we feel so helpless. Betty tells us our e-mails, texts and phone calls help, and when we read the comments from her fellow bloggers, we can believe in the power of that form of communication.

After Betty's courageous and honest post, I watched as the comments began arriving.

What wonderful thoughtful expressions of support and wisdom from people who, for the most part, have never met.

I will leave it to the social scientists to expound on the deeper meaning, I'm just thankful such a forum exists.

So, as Betty assesses the damage, considers calling for professional help, and tries to piece together her ripped apart life, I want to thank her friends, those who are physically there doing the heavy lifting, and the bloggers who help her far away family know support can be given in many ways.

Just as I feel Betty's pain as only a sister can, I also feel every virtual hug sent to her.

If Betty were writing this, she would close with one of her profound closings that we all think about for days. I am not Betty and do not have her gift of writing. I can only thank you all and hope Betty can someday write the closing to this hard, hard chapter of her life and come back to us stronger than ever.


56 comments:

Susan Fields said...

I have four sisters and I don't know what I'd do without them. It sounds like you've been blessed with a truly wonderful one. And good luck getting all that water damage taken care of!

Peggy K said...

Written as only a sister can. And the closing statement...perfection!
We are here for our BB. Cussin' & swearin' & huggin' and cryin'.
She really has added something to my life. I only hope I can add to her's when she needs it most.

Susan in the Boonies said...

Sweet sister! How good to know of the "in real life" love and support that is there for Betty.

Larri @ Seams Inspired said...

Nothing better than wisdom imparted from a sister. Couldn't/Wouldn't want to be without mine! Thanks SoB for sharing your heart with us.

Betty - So sorry to hear of the water soaking your home. "When it rains, it pours" seems to be true in this instance.(((HUGS)))

Psalm 46:1

Linda said...

You've written about those wonderful sisters of yours before, so I'm not surprised to find them rallying to your support now. And I'm not surprised, based on what I know about you from your writing, that you have a strong network of friends who are physically present and willing to help in any crisis. Hang in there, BB. You're going to make it.

Old Kitty said...

Hello there sister of beautiful Betty!!!

What a wonderful post, thank you for sharing. I'm just so glad that BB is blessed with such sisterly love and support. Yay!!!

I continue to send her tons and tons of virtual hugs! I just know she'll see off this nasty pipe water bursting thing with aplomb - she's mighty BB afterall, yes she is! Take care
x

Anne Gallagher said...

To Betty's sister,
I don't have a sister, but Betty's always been a "sistah" to me. I wish I could be there to help with the furniture, and I am kind of handy hanging sheetrock, but I know I can only be there is spirit. Betty is a strong woman, and has strong women behind her to help get her through this. She has all of you, and all of us. Won't be too long before she starts hanging her own sheetrock!

((HUGS)) to you and Betty.

Donna said...

Sisters...there's Nothing like having them (I have two). Their support and loyalty is.. a Forever gift from God.
SO glad Betty has you there close by....
((HUG))

Leanne said...

Oh . . . HUGS. Thanks, dear SOB, for sharing your words with us today. I cherish Betty more than I can even say. Thank you for sharing her with us. This blog community is a great one, for sure. And we will continue to be here for BB. Oh, gees...I'm feeling like a great big hugfest is required after this one!

welcome to my world of poetry said...

I never had a sister, I am so pleased you have some to help you through this difficult time.

Take care.
Yvonne.

Madi and Mom said...

Dear Sister of Betty thank you for this beautiful post and Betty thank you for sharing it with us.
I can only speak for myself, but BB has been such an inspiration to me on my blogging journey and it is my honor to be one of her followers. Whatever I can do or say to help BB I will do. She is always in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm so sorry she has this extra burden of damage issues at her home. God bless BB, her family and all her wonderful friends.
Hugs Madi and Mom

Flartus said...

With sisters like that, who needs blog buddies?

Kidding! Still here, still thinking of you and wishing you increasing happiness, day by crawling-up-a-rocky-mountain day.

Daisy said...

Hello Betty's sister! Thank you for being there for her. Where would any of us be if it weren't for the support of our family and friends. Hugs to the both of you from me.

Out on the prairie said...

Support has came from many directions. What a lovely piece and sister.

Ami said...

So happy Betty has so much love and support from family. We bloggers are nice, we really do care... but NOTHING says love like what I just read!

((hugs)) to your whole family, Betty, and you, too.

Elizabeth Grimes said...

Thank goodness you have your sisters to help you. I don't know what I would do without mine. Thinking about you still.

Laura said...

BB is lucky to have you, SOB, but I'm sure that you feel the same about her. It's amazing, isn't it, how a community of "strangers" can provide so much support when it is needed most? I feel such a connection with some of the bloggers that I follow that I feel as if I have known them for years...
Continued (((hugs))) to you, Betty.

Pearl said...

:-) I suspected that Betty has as much "real life" love as she does "interwebs" love.

Hugs,

Pearl

Catherine said...

How wonderful to have the support of a loving family around you at this time. I am thinking they are going to help you get through this.

Sending you good thoughts and warm wishes that every day gets a tiny bit easier. I am sure it will be two steps forward and one step back but it sounds like your biggest fans ~ your sisters ~ will be right behind you and beside you.

xo Catherine

Eva Gallant said...

Sisters are the best, as this post proves! Hugs to Betty and SOB!

Bouncin' Barb said...

What a beautiful post and what a great sister you are. I too am in the process of being single again and I told Betty we'll get through it together. Except I don't have any sisters and my family is not very close to me. I rely on friendships I've made in blogger world and a few close friends in CT. We can do this. We are strong women!!!

Sara said...

Awwww, I like that definition of SOB way, way better ♥

Retired English Teacher said...

I chuckled when I saw the title for this post. My father told me when I was going through my divorce that if I ever lost my sense of humor, that is when he would worry about me. Your sense of humor, one hallmark of your personality, will help to see you through this time.

Your family is just as awesome as you are. Thank you SOB for giving us a new way of thinking of a definition to a term that is not very flattering, and thank you for the wonderful post you wrote in support of Betty.

Is this another way to say SOB - Support of Betty? If so, I am in that club. We are here for you Betty even though we may be scattered across the country,

Miriam said...

Yay for sisters! I have one and she is so, so special to me. It makes me feel kinda bad for people who have no sisters - maybe we could start an adopt-a-sister program for getting people through the rough spots!

Joyful said...

Ah, what a sweet sister. You are so blessed to have her and several more. I don't have one anymore and I know what I'm missing. Hugs. xx

Siv Maria said...

I really miss my sisters! Thank God Betty still has hers :)

Rawknrobyn.blogspot.com said...

It's no surprise that such a loving person has so much love coming back to her when she's most in need. Thank you, Betty's sisters. We all just wish she wasn't going through this. But, as long as she is, we're not going anywhere.
xoRobyn

Ms. A said...

I have always found it amazing and uplifting, the closeness we feel with our virtual friends. They don't feel the least bit "virtual". We feel their pain, share their joy, and pray like the dickens when they need extra help.

Betty, we love you!

Brian said...

You sister's words were beautiful and we hope you feel the hugs coming from our direction too!

Linda Myers said...

We're all with you, sisters of the blogosphere.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

That is wonderful! Yes, we are all here for Betty, offering support as we can.

EmptyNester said...

Beautifully put! Who says she's not a writer????

I know, with the wonderful sister support and friends and bloggers, that Betty will write that closing. And it will be enlightening and powerful.

Teresa Evangeline said...

Yes, Betty, We are here, and so glad your other sisters are, too.

Big Hug!

E.R. King said...

I have sisters like yours, and they're the most wonderful people in the world. Thanks for sharing this. I'm going to go call my sis.

Shrinky said...

There is no question of the love and value your dear sister has for you. I am so grateful for my own two sisters who have also seen me through some of the darkest times I've known.

Life throws us many curve-balls, doesn't it? When it all comes down to dust, it's family that sees us through - it's a lifeline always there, unconditional, constant and strong. Whatever seepage comes in, isn't it comforting to have another pair of shoulders, such as that lovely sister of yours, to help share the load?

Shan said...

Ahh, I saw the title, laughed and thought about how much I love ya. Then I read your sister's post... from laughter to tears pretty quickly there.

Sorry to hear about the pipe and it's accompanying issues. I was just thinking today how there are some small crises that happen and we deal with them and move on. But when it's one after another, or coupled with a big crisis, it can be hard to pick your path forward. It looks like you have a wonderful guide in your sister. Reminds me of the quote, “A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.”

Lisa said...

Beautiful letter! Beautiful sister!

I've been through this pain . . .broken pipes. . .what a mess. It so stressful ~ my husbands father was dying at the time. We even had a funeral in our torn apart house...exposed pipes and all. Sigh! my heart goes out to you Betty. This is a tough one...Hugs!

Baby Sister said...

Sisters are one of God's greatest gifts, so I am so glad that Betty has you guys on her side. We will continue to support her and love her from wherever we are, it's the least we can do for the amazing, wonderful person.

*hugs*

Kazzy said...

You do have a great sister, and we bloggers form tight bonds. You have a support net that will help, even though you will obviously need to do a lot of personal sorting and grieving. Warm wishes.

Gigi said...

I feel so cheated! I don't have a sister; but what I wouldn't give to have at least one as wonderful as yours, Betty!

Ann said...

SOB....lol I'm glad it's the good one writing this post. That cracked me up.
Well I would have to say, sister of Betty that you do indeed have a gift of writing because this was superbly composed

Marlene said...

Sister of Betty: You sound every bit as amazing as Betty is. God bless you.

(And I did get a chuckle out of SOB, I must admit!)

Ally said...

Oh Sister of Betty, you little ... you made me cry :(

Betty, you are truly blessed to have loving sisters. I have one brother and he's okay, but I've always wanted a sister.

Hugs.

The Green Streak said...

I couldn't have said it better myself, SOB! Thanks for expressing so eloquently what all of us feel.

Lin said...

Dear Betty's sister:

We are here for Betty like Betty has been there for us--through thick and thin.

You see, we bloggers share a lot of ourselves and we are oftentimes very vulnerable. So when we share ourselves, we find that others have been there, been through more or less, and have a lot of love to share because of that.

Betty is one of our own, and while I can't come over and wring out that stinky carpet or re-wire her house, I can send her encouragement to continue on with her newfound (albeit reluctant) independence. She is Betty--hear her roar. Go BETTY! Show that weinie what you are made of and make us proud!

Please give Betty and extra hug for me today. She is a great gal.

Gail Dixon (Louisiana Belle) said...

SOB, that was a very heartfelt post. Wonderful writing runs in the family, I see. Betty is so blessed to have you and others in her life.

jenny_o said...

Sister of Betty, what a beautiful post. It is nice to feel that our words can make a difference. Betty, it must be a great comfort to have such good sisters and real world friends to turn to. May your water troubles be less extensive than thought, and may your insurance coverage be more so.

karen said...

Awww Betty... how great to have not just one sister, but many! And you have so many blogging friends as well. Sometimes it's not until something terrible happens that you realize how many people love you. It doesn't make the pain all better, but it sure helps you get a grip. Rock on sister!

Susan said...

Dear SOB, You are a wonderful sister and a fine writer, too! I, like you, feel so helpless being hundreds of miles away. My friend of 26 years is suffering, and I can't be there to move the furniture, fix a pipe, cook a meal, give a hug. Countless times, "Betty" has helped me with my struggles. I just want to be there for her now. Your post and those of her blogging buddies make me feel your love for her. I hope, with all my heart, that she feels this love in a very real way. I love her, too, and pray for a real sense of healing, strength and happiness in her near future. I love you, BB!

faye said...

No surprise that your sister sounds
a lot like you..

Sending hugs and good vibes !!!

Annie said...

I am so glad you have a good solid family to lean on. They seem wonderful Betty!
You remain in my thoughts and prayers for happy days ahead.
Many hugs

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi SOB and Betty - sounds like you have one incredible family who are there for you - that's fantastic to have these words for us the supporters on the net.

It's the physical beings who've proved so strong in helping Betty with the house .. those probably are the ones now who deserve 'our' thanks - we always need the solidity and safeness of home .. into which our emotions can fall.

This is such a wonderful place to be at such a difficult and challenging time for Betty ..

With many thoughts to all .. Hilary

Mary said...

Hello SOB, sisters are very important people in a family. I've got two and although I don't see them very often we speak a lot on the phone! Pleased that Betty has the love of her sisters and blogging buddies to support her during this tough time.

Thoughts and hugs to Betty and you.

Pat said...

Oh boy! When it rains it pours! Sounds like you have great friends to help you out of this mess (both IN your house and your life!) Your support system on line and in person is on alert.

And family. Family certainly matters.

They helped me through my divorce that's for sure!

Laura Eno said...

What a wonderful sister you have. Family can help you stand straighter until you're able to stand tall on your own.

The Vegetable Assassin said...

Sorry I am once again last to the party! I just wanted to see how Betty was doing and I see everyone has everything in hand, particularly SOB. :) Feel better soon Betty! It WILL happen.