Wednesday, April 6, 2011

The Best Time of the Day


My Cat Is Good At It Too



Sleeping.

I like it.

Every time I log off of my computer, it's a menu option that I choose to see as a personal invitation.

And not to brag or anything, but I am pretty darn good at it too.

I come by my talent honestly. My grandparents had a day bed before day beds were cool. Come to think of it, it was actually just a twin-sized bed that was about three feet from their double bed. They called it a day bed because when one felt the need to take a nap during the day (which was often) that’s where one would collapse but only until about 4:00pm.

That’s when the large easy chairs in the living room essentially became the day beds--or, I guess, early evening beds.

The good thing about coming from a sleeping/napping family is the understanding within that family of the essential nature of the nap. When we have family reunions, there is the unspoken agreement of the need for gaps of time between events. When someone stands up and says, “I’m going to take a nap,” there are no cries of protest. There are nods of understanding along with looks of admiration and a weird sense of excited shared expectancy.

I love to travel with my sister because she and I have the same time clocks and we look forward to bedtime in the same way. There is sense of anticipation that sets in around 6:00pm as we begin Bedtime Countdown.

We talk about bedtime the way other people talk about the circus coming to town. “Can you believe we have to wait so long?” “It’s going to be great!” “I can’t wait!” “Is it time yet?” We eagerly await the sacred hour and at 9:00 we settle into our hotel beds and shut off the lights.

Ahhhhhh….at last.

“Best part of the day,” my sister says. “Yep,” I answer back.

Families who share the same sleeping habits are happy families.. The trouble comes when non-sleepers infiltrate the family unit. These invaders can come in the form of spouses and/or c-h-i-l-d-r-e-n. These rouge individuals start trouble when they actually suggest/begin activities that begin after 9:00pm.

Wild.

Crazy.

Nutty.

My children learned early on that if Mummy doesn’t get her sleep, it is not pretty.

HOB (Husband of Betty) is not a sleeper. He is a wild man who stays up until the wee hours of the morning. He gets by on four or five hours of sleep a night. This came in handy during the child-rearing years except that his idea of supervision was life-support only.

Somehow we got by. Now, I go to bed at my time, assigned by nature and ordained by God and HOB stays up to do his thing.

Come to think of it, what does he do after I go to bed?

Who knows?

I don’t ask. He doesn’t tell.

And, best of all, he doesn’t wake me up when he comes to bed.


69 comments:

Lin said...

Betty, you are my soul sister! I am a napper and I am damn proud of it! Oh, there are those who suck their teeth and insist that I am a princess, but they don't know how good it is for your heart. That's what I'm doing--giving my heart a rest. Sheesh.

When the kids were little everyone would go down at 2 p.m. for nappies--including me. Sigh. Those days were lovely. Everyone awoke with renewed spirit and smiling faces. I think naps should be mandatory!

Can I join your family??

Seams Inspired said...

Oh, my kindred Kansan, you come from good stock! :o) We are a napping family too. Sleep is a precious commodity to be heavily invested. It took me YEARS to train DH in the 'early to bed, early to rise' mentality. Good sleepers rule the world, my friend. Excellent post! Happy Wednesday! :o)

Jules said...

LOL, I'll remember the "Allowed to visit/call" hours and set my watch :)
Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow

Nancy said...

I'm somewhat of a closet napper. If I'm asked "did you take a nap today?", I'll hem and haw and say something like, "uh, I tried, but I had so much to do today..."

Lies, all lies.

Funny post. Loved it.

Out on the prairie said...

I don't set a time to sleep.I just hit the hay when I feel tired. Usually this is around 9, but can be earlier. The down side is if you go to bed real early you wake when it is still dark.

Nick said...

Who'd have thought afternoon naps could become such a ritual. Oh to be 30 again.

Anne Gallagher said...

Oh naptime, my favorite hour of the day. As soon as I pick up Monster Child from school, I settle her in front of a movie, make her mac 'n cheese and say, "I have to take a nap now." She doesn't really understand why when we could be outside playing baseball or looking for bugs. But I have told her, it's what babies and old people have to do in order to make it to dinner time. Otherwise, we turn into forces of evil.

Parsley said...

Sleep. I wish I had your talent. I don't sleep well but I do go to bed sometimes before my hubs. Then when he comes in I wake back up and stare at the ceiling for hours. ugh.

Sarah said...

My mom naps all day, but the funny thing is she's not happy or in good mood at all. I know there are some countries where everybody takes a nap in the afternoon.

Venassa said...

I'm pretty great at sleep myself, but my boyfriend? He can come to bed at the same time as me but always wants to be up hours earlier. It is a strain on our relationship.

Old Kitty said...

OH BB!! I so need my sleep too. I sleep daily on my commute to and from work - with and without the snores - LOL!! I sleep on car journeys (I don't drive - I'm a dedicated sleeping driving partner). I've also been known to snooze at my desk at work. Ahem.

We need our beauty sleep is all I can say! Take care
x

Sara said...

Oh, how I love sleep. One of my best friends used to say, [in a sassy twang] "Sleep is the only thing that treats me right."

Linda said...

I'm conflicted. I love BEING in bed, but I hate GOING to bed. I drag my feet getting ready for bed. There's all that face washing and teeth brushing and clothes changing to deal with. Once IN bed, though, there's the sigh of pleasure as I sink into my mattress and my head finds just the right nesting spot on my pillow. Ahhh!

Leah J. Utas said...

My dad was a napper. Once I understood the power of the nap I joined up. Nap is good.

Mellisa Rock said...

I love to sleep too but often try to cram way to much into my nights. Just trying to get it all done.

Liz said...

It cracks me up that your cat falls asleep like that! In our house, we all fall under the "early to bed, early to rise" philosophy, but thankfully, the "early" for the kids isn't until 7, even though Craig and I are up before then.

welcome to my world of poetry said...

Loved your post, I seem to nod off during the afternoon but don't wake up refreshed, so wish I could stay awake all day.

Yvonne,

Jamie said...

I love this post! I have always been an early to bed person, even in college.
When I was teaching a full day special needs preschool program, we would have nap/rest time for an hour in the afternoon. Oh how I wished I could take a nap with them!

Flartus said...

Hear, hear! Three cheers for bedtime! If only I could nap after lunch at the office, my life would be twice as good as it is right now.

Heather said...

You are so nice. I not only need to go to bed early, I also NEED my husband to come with me!!

Napsare definitely a treat I hadn't fully appreciated before.

blueviolet said...

I adore sleeping, absolutely mad crazy love it, but I HATE that it's immediately followed by waking up. So lately when I'm ready for bed, I've kinda been dreading it for that reason.

Nat said...

Oh I do need my sleep... haven't been that good at it lately though, overactive mind. I get VERY cranky when sleep deprived...

Stephanie Faris said...

This is my second marriage, and the second time I've been married to someone who is a night owl. I'm used to going to bed around 9-10 pm and having someone else in the house up until all hours of the night. The late hours are when my husband gets some of his best work done. He works on work-related projects sometimes, but mostly I think he plays online Poker and watches TV and (from the looks of the kitchen when I get up at the crack of dawn) eats a lot of junk food!

Madi and Mom said...

BB the best things in life were learned from watching out cats!!
I love watching a them wake up from a power nap the do a power stretch. Oh to be that limber.

Evidently I wasn't a good sleeper as a child...it followed me into adulthood. My daughter quit taking her morning nap at 12 monthsw and her afternoon nap at 2.
Proof that she was my child. LOL
Now that I'm retired I find I fall asleep much more peacefully and sleep many nights w/o waking up...but I still wake up (w/o a clock) as early as I did for work.
Hugs C

Siv Maria said...

You are so lucky! I have serious insomnia due to my body clock never adjusting to eupopean time. At least that is the excuse I give myself :)

taio said...

excelent

Bouncin' Barb said...

This wasa fantastic post. Napping is an essential part of our life. And growing up it was expected when we visited grandparents. Sometimes I never slept but I laid in my special room and daydreamed and looked at all the stuff on the walls and next thing I knew I'd hear grandma in the kitchen and I'd go down to see her. Great memories.

EmptyNester said...

I can't nap because I am grumpy afterwards. But I do look forward to my bedtime with eager anticipation beginning around 7:00 pm. By ten, lights out! Hubs is like HOB, he stays up late and does whatever---probably sleeping on the couch! LOL But he can nap with the best of 'em!

Velvet Over Steel said...

My son's dog sleeps just like that. They each look of so confortible and 'good' at relaxing and sleeping, that is for sure!!
I love your Cat!! :-)

E. Elle said...

I love ya, Betty. And I love sleep. One of my favorite activities. I was a really hyper child, always on the move until I broke my arm at age 6 and had to spend the summer in a plaster cast. I calmed down but still didn't like sleep as much as I do now. (I honestly think my Summer of Insomnia at age 8 [wherein I did not sleep for three months - my mom will vouch for this] had something to do with it.)

Ms. A said...

Naps are an essential part of my daily routine. When I don't get my nap, I don't sleep well. My aunt had eight kids and on Sunday afternoon, after church and lunch, they all knew it was nap time, before evening services. I hated it then, I was young, what did I know. Now, it's a treasured time of day. (until the phone rings)

Susan in the Boonies said...

Gosh I love that cat!!!!!!

I identify with that cat.

Tiger85 said...

I love naps, now if I could only work one in everyday. My son is against naps right now. If only I could barrow some of his energy I would be able do get things done much quicker. =)

http://tigeronmybookshelf.blogspot.com/

Jennifer Shirk said...

That's so funny! I love to sleep too! And yeah, if Mommy doesn't get AT LEAST 7-8 everyone pays. BUt I'd really prefer a nice 9 hours sleep.
My hubby is likes yours. Sleeps 5 hours on a good day. I think mine might actually be a vampire. LOL

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

What's he doing? Probably nothing.

Ginny said...

Funny and true. You are beginning to remind me of Erma Bombeck. Well, it's 1:30 P.M. and I just got up!!! So there!! I want twelve hours and more!!! And I'll tell you one thing. When you and I loook for a good movie to watch, I bet it's the sleepers we check out!! Nighty night, sleep tight.

jenny_o said...

If I said I had a little nap in the middle of reading this, you wouldn't be offended, would you? :)

Hilary said...

I'm getting very sleepy just reading about it. Is 2:22 PM a respectable nap time? I hope so... zzzzzzzzzzzz.

Katherines Corner said...

Giggle. I don't nap. but my husband does. Love that photo of the chubby kitty. Smooches!

Donna said...

I can barely make it to 7:30...Hahaaaa....
Happy night Miz Betty!
hughugs

Brian said...

I'm always prepared, I can sleep on a moments notice!

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Betty .. it's past your bedtime - can I comment? I can sleep like all the time - but obviously don't .. and probably don't sleep as much as I should do .. I need your hubby's body clock!

The change in the clock, or the sun tipping over the yard arm has made a huge difference .. I'm particularly noticing it this year .. as soon as it's dark in winter - I'm 'finished' .. now .. toddle on ..

Great post - thanks and lovely seeing you over at my place .. cheers Hilary

Annie said...

Bedtime was always 10, waking at 7AM, now its earlier.
Your post made me giggle. Thanks

Ann said...

I love my sleep but then I love my awake time too. Unless, of course, that awake time is spent at work and then I wish I was at home sleeping

Gigi said...

I can't nap. Simply because I'm such a great sleeper that if I were to nap I'd end up sleeping straight through the night. And woe to anyone who wakes me once I'm asleep....it ain't pretty.

The Empress said...

I always think about what I miss the most about my little guys being little: falling asleep with them, i the mid afternoon.

Delicious naps.

Brian (not the cat) said...

A nap to me is like a fade between scenes in a movie. Or like a semicolon in a run-on sentence.

The difference between this realm and Heaven is that in Heaven, you can take a nap whenever you feel like it.

Marlene said...

Oh my. Your cat looks a little.....ummm....fluffy. :)

Lydia K said...

Ha ha, you are like my hubs's family. I think they have naps ingrained in their genes!

Stephen Tremp said...

Now all I want to do is take a nap. Just took the word sleep and my eyes are getting droopy.

Munir said...

I think naps have a flavour to them. I wish that I could eat and drink sleep. I will fall a sleep when my husband is watching his favourite shows. I t is no offence to me, but they sound like a lullabye:)

Daisy said...

I love that picture of your cat!!

Goodnight, Betty! Sweet dreams! ;)

Retired English Teacher said...

My mother will be 95 next month. When I visit her, I nearly fall asleep during dinner. She stays up so late. She never goes to bed before midnight. She really doesn't take naps either. I guess I take after my dad. He was always in bed as soon as it was dark and he loved his naps. She has outlived him, so I'm not sure if it's a good thing to need the sleep I do, but I sleep anyway.

Sleep tight.

Baby Sister said...

I love sleeping, and I am very talented at it as well. :) People know not to mess with my sleep!!

slommler said...

I love my sleep and 9PM is late for me!!!! Try 7:30!!! Ha!
But I have to say...I get up at 3AM!!
Get lots of stuff done before anyone is up. It is great!
And I love my bed...a Sleep Number Bed! Ahhhhh! Can you say BLISS!!??
Hugs
SueAnn

Keats The Sunshine Girl said...

I hardly ever nap for I like my sleep when it's time to sleep:))

Talli Roland said...

I love sleeping, but I'm not the best at it. Naps are my saviour!

Ren- Lady Of The Arts said...

Man- I wish Dr J didn't wake me up- but he does- everytime and then I am awake and grumpy having gotten only an hour or two of sleep/ the worst-
I coincidentally took photos of my dog sleeping like this yesterday- cute!

Cricket said...

My wife is the champeen sleeper around here. I understand the nap thing, though. Trouble is, any time I take one, I wake up groggier than before I lay me down to sleep. Coffee for me, but I sleep well at night.

MaggieGem said...

Who knew napping was so popular! Great post, I'm a napper too!

Barbara said...

Such a great post, and so true! My HOB (husband of Barbara) and I are the exact opposites of you and your HOB. Except I'm afraid I do wake him up when I come to bed.

The Chicken's Consigliere said...

Waiting up at night for kids is the absolute worst. But I remember those days. What can you do but grin and bear it. And nap whenever possible.

Desiree said...

What a thoroughly enjoyable post! Now, I'm off to take a nap :)

Shan said...

I read this last night before going to bed. Tom started up a conversation about carpet cleaning and laundry and his fantasy baseball team. We wrapped it up and I shut down the computer. He did the carpets, I did the laundry. Now I'm back. That's right. My days end and begin with you.

:+)

Cake Betch said...

Sleeping is probably my favorite activity and I'm super awesome at it too. Except for when it comes time to ACTUALLY go to bed and sleep, then I lie there staring at the wall all night. Sigh...

Laura said...

I admire how you have been able to maintain your sleep when your husband is a night owl. I was an early to bed/early to rise type person and, over the years, I seem to have adapted myself to my husband's sleep patterns.
I so miss the sunrise...

Eve said...

hahahaha! I love your blog Bossy Betty! It's the best...I love to nap too..infact, the older I get the more necessary it becomes! Infact, what am I doing on this computer? It's late now and my bed is calling me!! I will visit again when I'm not so tired, lol! love it though..are you doing the A-Z challenge? peace :)

Pat Tillett said...

This sounds a lot like our house! I wish I could sleep more, but I've never been able to.
Cute kitty! (and big)

The Adorkable Ditz said...

I have a day bed!...Does that make me cool?

I am both. I love my sleep but I love staying up until I basically pass out at like 2, but since I have a schedule to adhere to I have to fight what comes naturally to me.