Wednesday, August 18, 2010

A Lot to Think About

Bossy Betty is Blog of Note today at WOW (Words of Wisdom)
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Go out our front door, take a left, go about a block and you’ll see our town’s Community Center—a 1970’s block of a building.

Most people park in the front to enter the building or to go to the play equipment that’s on the grassy area to the side. But on the right of the building is another parking lot—a large, flat slab of asphalt, cracked and faded. Most days it’s completely empty and people pass by it without a second thought.

To me though, this is a special place.

This is what I see and remember as I look out on this lot:


Pushing

the stroller with the baby in front. Me, a new mom, out of the house at last, exhausted, but oh so happy.


Pulling

the red wagon, feeling the solid load behind me, hearing the laughter as the wagon goes quickly over bumps and wide cracks. “Faster, Mom, faster!”


Sitting

on the curb, watching the boy run across the expanse of asphalt, pushing the large yellow dump truck that is loaded up with colorful Matchbox cars.


Watching

and smiling at the boy on the new tricycle circle and circle and circle, thrilled to be moving under his own power, his own strong legs.


Snapping

on helmets, buckling up impossibly big skates. Waiting, watching, wincing, then willing the fallen back up.


Running,

running, running, my hand holding on to the back of the bicycle seat, feeling it slip from my hand, heart beating wildly as the bike wobbles, wobbles and then picks up speed and moves quickly away.


Sneaking

by to watch the skateboarding, the kick flips practiced over and over again, the awkward grace, the inelegant, yet delicate balancing of the board on the curb.


Praying

in the passenger’s seat, the car so large, the boy so young--the acceleration of the car and of life, so very fast.


These days after my evening walks, near sunset, I stand on the upraised curb of this lot and look out.

Through my mother eyes I can see all the hundreds and hundreds of wheel marks, still there, looping around one another, forming an intricate and complex tapestry. They are all here on this canvas framed by this curb.

I step onto the lot and feel the solidity of these memories beneath my feet.

I smile and head home, grateful, so grateful, for it all.




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62 comments:

Nat said...

Lovely post, Betty!
Great memories :-)

Ann said...

That parking lot has got one beautiful view, even if you are the only one who sees it.

Nicole MacDonald said...

gorgeous - brings back lots of memories of parking lots and driving lessons/skating lessons ;p

A girl needs 2 Talk said...

This made me cry. You're a very good Mother, Bet! I love your memories!

Peggy K said...

Seriously, I think you get a kick out of bringing tears to my eyes!!! This is beautiful. I think I need to quiet myself and take the time to journey back to when my kids were little. I just may borrow your format when I finally get the words into my head.
I have probably said this before of your other posts, but this is one of my favorites. Thanks for sharing your memories!

Kathie @ Just a Happy Housewife said...

very lovely post Betty.

I'm a dunce, I thought you were already blog of note on WOW!

AKAmamma said...

I love the rites of passage post. I loved the part of teaching your kids to ride a bike. I just taught my daughter and I know how special that moment is.

I look forward to following your blog. Congrats on the BON.

Sandy said...

Wow, what a beautiful post. That's a format we could all use to reminisce.

Thanks for being BON. Hope you have a great day!

Sandy (half of WOW)

Madi and Mom said...

Thank you for sharing that beautiful vista with us. A Mom's mind's eye has unlimited storage capacity
Madi and Mom

Linda said...

One has to keep those special memories alive. We remember them to keep us going all through our lives. Thanks for sharing. Beautiful thoughts.

Copyboy said...

Wow that is really touching. It's amazing how you transformed a piece of overlooked asphalt into something memorable for us. Got a sweet case of butterflies on some of 'em.

Joe Cap said...

Great memorable writing. You are lucky the parking lot is still there...

Old Kitty said...

Awww these are very precious memories!! Suddenly that bit of concrete is something else magical and special for you.

Thank you so much for sharing these. Now I am going to discover these WOW!!! posts!

Take care
x

BigSis said...

So sweet. It's good to write these things down so we can remember them into old age!

The Retired One said...

Loved this melancholy post...now as a grandmother, I am adding more memories to the pavement around me too.

Georgina Dollface said...

Congratulations on being a WOW BoN! I loved the way your words brought that empty playground to life. - G

Alissa said...

Beautiful post!

Brian said...

That is so cool, a whole empty lot full of memories!

Bethany @ Organic Enchilada said...

Phenomenal post. I love it. :)

leelee said...

That was such a beautiful piece. It made me happy to be a mom myself someday. Thanks Betty!

BECKY said...

Very poignant! When I first saw the photo, I thought I was going to read a post about a useless, empty parking lot, taking up space. What a wonderful surprise! I'll probably never look at similar lots again! Thank you! And congrasts on being the BON today. I'm glad I was already a follower, so I can say, I already knew you were the BOMB....uh, I mean BON! :)

Sonora said...

Betty, this was beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes. How amazing to have a place where you can go that contain all of those memories. I get so caught up in trying to get through the now and it is nice to have a reminder that it will go quickly and I really should enjoy where I am at, trials and all!
Congrats on being the WOW Blog of Note!

Out on the prairie said...

Had a similar area to ride bikes and teach many youngsters how to ride.It was a routine to do different patterns and try to balance on a curb for a section.We spent many hours in the safety of this lot and I which I was still there with that long lost routine.

patti said...

You have such a diverse blog; though I love all your posts, it's your memory wanderings that capture my heart.
P

Jillsy said...

That is so sad that today's youngsters are not outside as much as they used to be. Like you mentioned a vacant lot used to be a child's playground.

Jillsy said...

Oh...and Congrats on the Blog of Note!

Leanne said...

One of your best yet, Betty. With tears in my eyes, I tell you that you make my life richer.

Congrats on Blog of Note!)

Tabor said...

I really liked this post. So genuine and so sweet and, of course, so sad.

Marlene said...

Miss Bossy Lady: You write so well. I love coming here. I also love that you still take the time to come visit me, even though I know you are busy as a bee these days. Huggles.

Baby Sister said...

This was awesome. :) I love memories like this. Thank you for sharing!!

Liz said...

oooh, now you have me feeling all sentimental! i hope we stay in 1 spot long enough to have these kid of memories.

Shan said...

Oh sweet, happy tears.

Shan said...

I forgot to add my congratulations on your well-deserved honor!

Flartus said...

Aw, I was gonna say something about how this would be a great spot for a community garden.

Never mind...

Katie Gates said...

Stopping by from WOW. What a beautiful post. So glad to have learned of your presence in cyberspace. Happy BON day!

Ms. Anthropy said...

Brings back memories of the school and playground next door to me and all the time spent there.

Julie said...

What a special post. Thank you.

Sarah said...

This is such a heartwarming post. May the lot stay there and keep making wonderful memories for many more young mothers and kids.

Gigi said...

Fabulous post! That lot is just so beautiful.

cj Schlottman said...

Congratulations on being a BON! This sweet post is touching and so well written. Glad I found your site!

Thanks for sharing..........cj

blueviolet said...

A little bit of everything right there. Wonderful.

Pearl said...

Perfect, Betty. Not too heavy, but not too light. I really liked this.

Pearl

Kazzy said...

Sweet nostalgia. I like this post a lot.

Daisy said...

Such a wonderful post, Betty. This brought back lots of very similar memories for me too. :)

Nicole said...

Betty - this is absolutely beautiful. You captured a slab of asphalt so beautifully. Excellent as always!

Nicole said...

Betty - this is absolutely beautiful. You captured a slab of asphalt so beautifully. Excellent as always!

NENSA MOON said...

Love this post, Betty!
What a wonderful memory!!

nensa

Pat Tillett said...

Okay Betty...
You got me on this one. Or maybe it's just my allergies. Either way, a little moisture is in my eyeballs...
What a great story! Memories you will have forever, passed down, forever...

you are a talented and deep lady.
I'm proud to call you my friend!

slommler said...

What a beautiful and moving post. How wonderful that you can still visit a sight that holds so many memories.
Hugs
SueAnn

Joey @ Big Teeth and Clouds said...

This gave me chills Betty! Congratulations on your BON WOW!

Green Monkey said...

ahhhh Betty, thanks for the tear and the chill! you're really special. I can't say it enough how much I look forward to checking in with you. Even my husband knows who "Bossy Betty" is and he's not a blogger and is guilty of only "following" me.

deborahjbarker said...

Congratulations on being a BON! I loved hearing your memories - if only asphalt could talk - what rich memories would it also tell... :-)

KaLynn ("MiMi") said...

I felt it and saw it. Thanks for the journey back!

Barbara Shallue said...

Beautiful. I saw it all with you, only it was my kids on our asphalt. Thanks for taking me on that little trip.

Cheeseboy said...

Great times. Your descriptions give me perfect imagery.

Jimmy said...

Excellent Betty,

There are so many memories created over a lifetime and how many are tied to one small space, the space will be there for a very long time but the Love will be there forever.

The Empress said...

This was beautiful, and congrats on the WOW recognition.

They have high standards, so, of course, you were accepted.

You are blessed to see all the ghosts in this photo, and smile in gratitude. Me? I walk past the park where I"d push the chubby little legs that thought they could reach the trees with their toes, and I can hardly stand it.

Lovely, betty.

Joanna Jenkins said...

Congratulations on your Blog of note, Betty. That's huge!

And what a great post filled with love and happy memories. You made me smile.

xo jj

Andrea said...

Don't you love those places! Congrats & I'm going to try to overhaul the face from the mascara mudslide going on right now...

Betty Manousos:cutand-dry.blogspot.com said...

Oh my, how I love your memories, Betty.
I am so moved.
What a touching post!
Missed you!!

Big hugs
~Betty

Plus:
Congrats on the WOW recognition! x

Pat said...

Aww, now you're going to just make me cry. How sad and heartwarming both at the same time.

Lora said...

congratulations (totally late, but still sincere!) on being a BON!

I LOVE your blog! What an awesome place.